Mar 5, 2010 Blogging
This evening one of my google alerts let me know that a blog had linked to mine. I don’t care how long you’ve been doing this, that’s always a good feeling. So I clicked on the link, thinking it would be the usual: My new friend this, or check out this blog that, or even a post picking apart a view I had on something. Instead, what I found was a post that started out by insulting my readers. Or rather, in this case, my video watchers, basically saying that anyone who watched my videos to the end was a sucker.
I don’t need to defend my videos. They’re a minor part of my blog, they don’t get much traffic compared to the rest of the site, and I mostly do them for myself. Complaining out loud when I’m home alone might indicate that I need to visit a psychiatrist, but if I put a camera on while I do it then I’m “vlogging” and not necessarily nuts. And they’re so incredibly quick to do compared to actual writing that they make me feel like I’ve accomplished something. So if someone doesn’t like them or doesn’t watch them, whatever. I’ll keep doing them as long as my face doesn’t break YouTube. Oops, I guess I just defended them.
But I was baffled as to why this blogger would insult my blog like that. I expect to be criticized for what I write. I often have strong opinions and I put them out there knowing that they’ll be challenged. But this blogger is new, and she’s writing on someone else’s site. She has a handful of posts under her belt and twitter followers numbering around 50. I was at that stage not all that long ago, and I can remember my attitude towards my fellow bloggers clearly: I’m in awe of you, I don’t know what I’m doing, and I’d be ever-so-grateful if you’d help me out in any little way you can. It wouldn’t have occurred to me to try to get ahead by insulting another mom blogger.
Notice that I’m not telling you who the blogger is or what site she writes for. I don’t need anyone to defend me and I don’t want to give her any traffic. In blogging, any kind of attention tends to be good attention. So, she missed an opportunity to get a link back from me, to engage me in a discussion. And as much as I’d like to pretend that I let these things roll off my back, I will remember her name forever and will never be rooting for her, because she started out her writing career insulting me.
So is there ever a reason to insult a fellow blogger? (I’m wracking my brain trying to think if I’ve ever done it, because there’s nothing more embarrassing than saying you should never do something and then having ten people show you exactly where you did it.) If I disagree with someone I try to focus on the issue, not the blogger. And that can be hard. Sometimes what I really want to do is just go on twitter and start calling names. But I take a deep breath, and I try not to stoop to that level.
I’ve seen plenty of bloggers attack other bloggers. Am I in the minority here, thinking that this isn’t cool?
Originally posted on Behind the Screen, a part of SelfishMom.com. All opinions expressed on this website come straight from Amy unless otherwise noted. Please visit Amy’s Full Disclosure page for more information.
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